We talk a lot about healing our wounds. Letting things go. Walking away. Forgetting the past. But let us be honest, it is NOT that easy.
Relationships are messy on a good day, and on a bad day, it takes on a whole new meaning when any one of these things are said to you. Not helping, or as my kid would say, “not ta-daey!”
The absolute lowest that we can feel is fear, guilt, shame, unworthiness, despair and powerlessness. These are deep seeded emotions, usually old, given to us before the age of five now residing in our Solar Plexus chakra and others and rooted in our subconscious affecting all of our current decision making, whether we realize it or not. And for most of us, we do NOT. We have conditioned ourselves by these old beliefs to keep ourselves protected (ego).
Self-sabotaging our loves, jobs, friendships, and more. By believing that we are not good enough or do not deserve at our core, keeps us playing ‘small’ not taking the Leap of Faith every time it is presented because we are convinced we will fail. And, we fail. It can be no other way. If you believe that you can’t, then you can’t. However, if you believe you can, then you CAN.
How do you get there? That is where the “F” word comes in. Forgiveness: letting go of the past decisions, relationships and situations that are holding you back because you are actively holding on to wanting things to be different. Your memory plays tricks on you, especially when you are holding on to woulda, coulda, shoulda scenarios that you play over and over in your mind. Or, you are suppressing the feelings because they are to painful to bring out into the light of day to be examined. When we have experienced a traumatic incident: abuse or neglect in some way, our psyche tries to protect us by pushing “it” down. However, in both these situation, it will resurface at some point in your life to be recognized and released.
Recognizing “it” means looking closely at the suppressed memory, person, situation that has made you feel bad in some way. This is the painful part because to truly see someone or a situation as hurtful as it was can be traumatic in its own way because you also become self-aware in the part that you played in allowing it to continue or allowing it to stay hidden. This is the releasing.
Releasing through forgiving yourself for whatever part you played, or anyone else who negatively impacted your situation. Also, recognizing that we all are doing the best we can in the moment. And forgiving you and them for making the decisions that they made at the time that they made them. And this releases you!
You get to begin new. With new situations, new people, new relationship with yourself first and then others. Becoming self-aware helps you to heal yourself. And this healing will transform you. And this healing will raise your vibrational frequency. Raising your vibrational frequency will draw new higher vibrational relationships and situations into your life without you having to search for a thing. And, this new found compassion will allow you to help relationships and situations around you to be better as a result.
Another result is that the lower vibrational situations and relationships will fall away, helping you to not stay in the pattern of self-sabotage that you have help previously. This takes time. Time to recognize and release. Time to love yourself. Time to heal.
At some point you may need help in this process. There will be a point or many points when you need help, please reach out.
Suicide help: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
Mental Health: https://www.mentalhealth.gov/get-help/immediate-help
Domestic Abuse: https://www.acf.hhs.gov/fysb/programs/family-violence-prevention-services/programs/ndvh
Integrated Energy Therapy® (IET®)
These are just a few of the ways in which you can reach out…please know that you are NOT alone.
Blessings, M xo